Straight men like Prostate Massage too!
P-massage, prostate massage, sacred spot massage, what are they? Isn’t it just a ‘gay thing?’ Male P-spot’s just like the *mythical* G-spot in women isn’t it?
Let me explain, and while I’m about it share another recent meeting with you, this time with a guy we’ll call (for the sake of anonymity) Jim. Jim’s a thirty something Quantity Surveyor from the Scottish Borders (see introductory email below) identifying as straight but sex positive too. I’m seeing increasing numbers of guys just like him, especially since switching emphasis from writing content for NEWS VIEWS & SCREWS to blog posts on this site and maturemaleescort.uk. The sex trade is evolving as it always has for hundreds of years, and worth paying attention to. The past couple of decades has seen an uptick in sexual liberation, but that looks set to change as the pendulum swings back. For now though, lets focus on men and their attitudes to self pleasure. A good percentage of ’em STILL shun sex toys or any thought of anal exploration, due mainly to cultural stigma, however, Millennials at least appear to be more open minded. That in itself is interesting, because for years I’ve rejected their advances due to their demographic’s propensity for time wasting and/or unwillingness to pay much for anything. It seems though, as they advance in years they’re kind of ‘drilling down’, finally, taking time to search for what they’re really looking for after much heartache & disappointment trying to find it for free. ‘Free’ seldom delivers does it? It’s usually nothing more than bait. After that comes the ‘switch’ and disillusionment. I’ve heard it a thousand times 🫤🫤
Some of them have booked sessions after reading ‘Letting Go’ and ‘What you can Expect from a visit’. Jim had read those posts too; elements of those fly on the wall accounts had piqued his interest, others not so much. He was at pains to stress 1) sexual identity: straight & 2) he wasn’t really into humiliation or degradation. Sensuality was what he was after, leading hopefully to ‘the mother of O’s’.
While reading his introductory email, I was ticking boxes. Jim came across (potentially) as a golden client.
Following the usual messages, a phone call, and confirmation, it wasn’t too long before he found himself heading south on the A68 towards Master’s abode. I’d directed him to a holding point, from where he called for further instructions. A couple minutes later he was pulling into my driveway; some kind of upmarket hybrid SUV… that’s all I could see through the spyhole before it was obscured by Jim walking briskly towards me. Dressed in full leather & chain regalia I slid behind the door to keep out of sight while opening it… mindful still of inquisitive neighbours. Even after all these years, they ‘don’t know for sure’ ha! #MushroomSyndrome (feeding them sh!t occasionally and always keeping them in the dark)
‘Hello there Jim! You’ve made it, come through…..’
He alluded to nerves but I assured him I couldn’t tell judging by appearances. He was a pretty good looking fella, around 5ft 8″ with body proportionate, verging on athletic, oval face shape with a ‘faded beard’. Well groomed for sure. There was only one area he hadn’t addressed, and that was his butt; we’d already discussed it during the phone consultation; him being in a long term relationship meant he couldn’t easily ‘prepare’. So once we’d got the pleasantries & the tribute out of the way, I accompanied him to the bathroom, showed him best practises regarding douching and left him to it. I told him not to rush…
Ten minutes later he was done & dusted, a bath sheet wrapped around his waist, stood in the playroom.
‘So Jim, you mentioned sensory deprivation yes?’
‘Aye’ he replied
‘Lets get you a gimp mask, you okay with that?’
He’d booked a three hour session. You might think ‘holy moly what are you going to do for three full hours?’
I’d planned of course. A three way split; anal exploration followed by electro, followed by milking. Jim had experienced SeriousKit penis milking once before at the hands of a domme in Glasgow, so I was fairly confident (after double checking his email too) I could keep him going on the device for an hour or more.
He’d got no cock to speak of, and what he had, didn’t appear particularly attractive. Akin to a shrew peeking out of his burrow🤣🤣🤣 ; Very pointed and tapered meaning I’d likely have difficulty later with electro loops. On the plus side, he’d got sheaths of foreskin and big balls. He must have read my mind… ‘I’m what you could call a grower, not much there now I know’ he offered.
‘Don’t worry my friend, I go months sometimes & see nothing more than 4 or 5 inches max, you’re not here to be judged anyways’
That must have given him a degree of confidence…‘It get’s to around 6 inches…’ he countered
‘Okey doke, above average anyway…. lets get you comfy’. I ordered him to lay tummy down on the heavy metal bench, a cushion positioned under his belly, then after reaffirming procedures around safe words, I stooped to secure him….
‘Restraints yeah?’
‘Yes please Master’ then ‘what do I call you?’
‘Master, Sir, Jerry, you’ll know from reading I’m not strictly a master, I’m a male pro dominant’
‘Awe, Master then’
The bench has seven restraining straps not counting cuffs & stirrups. Fastening them securely, I moved to his wrists, binding them in heavy duty cuffs which I then clipped to the subframe. He wasn’t going to be going anywhere in a hurry, for sure. Then it was on to his butt. I asked him the usual questions…. did he play frequently, when was the last time, had he ever been f*cked, had he been fisted etc etc. He said he didn’t self indulge very often, and hadn’t played much recently; it had been ten days since he’d cum. I inquired as to the reason why he didn’t get to play very often… was it lack of opportunity, or was it self restraint because he feared he was getting in too deep (pun intended ha!) Quite often I talk to people who’ve progressed to the point where it worries them; some throw away all their kit and attempt to abstain; it seldom lasts though. The itch invariably returns. So don’t fight it #LifesShort.
I proceeded to massage his anus. He was telling me that interacting with another man this way made him feel slightly uneasy; but not for long. I reassured him, that he wasn’t at the first stop on the journey to Gaytown, secondly that he’d admitted to being sex positive in nature IE “having positive attitudes about sex and feeling comfortable with one’s own sexual identity and with the sexual behaviours of others”. More detailed info on that can be found HERE. Pretty soon he was moaning, and ‘Oh Godding’ prompting me to probe further. Are you remembering the opening words of this post? P-massage – prostate massage – sacred spot? Most fellas have never been there, & have no intention of ever doing so; I’m routinely told this by *men* I talk to when I’ve got my other hat on… as the male half of fun50couple. Numerous reports & studies suggest the same. There’s confusion out there too… is the P-spot the male equivalent of the female G-Spot? Does the G-spot even exist? What’s the sacred spot? Do women have prostate glands?
Until fairly recently, the p-spot was referred to as the ‘male G-spot’. The G-spot in women or ‘Grafenberg Spot’ as its sometimes known as, isn’t a ‘thing’ as such, by which I mean a separate organ. Its simply a part of the clitoral network which can extend up to four inches from the tip of the visible ‘clit’ itself, like roots. Two of ’em, varying in size and length from woman to woman, and one reason the spot can be so ‘elusive’ & difficult to ‘put your finger on’ with any degree of precision, UNLIKE the male prostate. Its reckoned only around 20% of women achieve orgasm from penetration alone; clitoral stimulation is required too, which may be from close contact during intercourse, OR targeting the G-Spot directly which can be hit or miss. Direct stimulation of the region promotes a vaginal orgasm IE an orgasm from within the vagina. It may also be accompanied by squirting and or female ejaculation. So you thought they were the same thing? Well you thought wrong. It’s complicated. Find out more HERE. It never ceases to amaze me… we live in a world of high tech, we’ve even got humanoids working for us now, yet the ‘experts’ STILL differ over what’s what when it comes to orgasming in females. To be pc, I should rephrase that: ‘people with vaginas’ hmmmm. It’s an interesting subject not least because the Minx (my partner) squirts profusely. I’ve lost count of the numbers of men over the years who’ve scoffed at the notion the fluid is anything other than piss.
When people talk about the ‘female prostate’ they’re usually referring to the Skenes glands, NOT the G-spot. The Skene’s glands are a pair of small, pea-sized glands on the front wall of the vagina near the end of the urethra, where urine passes out of the body. These glands develop in the embryo within the womb from the same cells that morph into the prostate gland in men hence the confusion.
And the sacred spot? Well that’s a term used in tantric massage; It refers to the gateway to what’s known as the ‘second chakra’ [‘energy centre of the body’*]. I first researched this subject whilst sourcing content for a website I made three years ago for Sisi erotic massage in Warren Street London. Pay her a visit if you’re ever down that way…she’s the real deal with a golden reputation. Tantric masseurs are ACTUALLY stimulating the G-spot in women and the P-spot in men. The P-spot like the G-spot isn’t a thing as such, rather a dense area of nerves & tissue around the prostate gland, itself the OTHER SIDE of the rectal wall. Why bother with it at all? Because prostate orgasms produce two to three times more muscle contractions compared to penile orgasms meaning they can be up to three times stronger. Got that? Good!
* I wonder actually, if this is the reason why some of us feel like we’re carrying an increasingly heavy load physically speaking (I’m not talking about cum) if we’ve not been heavily stimulated recently?
Clearly Jim had had his appetite whetted before through massage of the prostate; admitting to having ‘found it’ on several occasions. A couple of dommes had hit his spot too; he was curious to see what a man would do… might there be more empathy perhaps… with the same applying to electrostim and penis milking? Can a female ‘service provider’ REALLY work the kit as effectively as a man who regularly gets off on it HIMSELF? I have my doubts. Undoubtedly there will be some who’ve logged what works and what doesn’t over time, and use that data to deliver a superior experience to others who merely twirl the knobs and hope for the best.
So I wasn’t overly surprised to witness a fine gossamer like thread of precum leak from Jim’s cock… falling ever so slowly towards the floor, amplified ten minutes later by a heavier ‘rope’ of fluid which had the effect of pushing the first strand further down, until it pooled on the waterproof laminate beneath the bench. That’s a bit graphic I know, but its a familiar scene and one I never tire of. It spurs me on as a pro male dominant inclined towards perfectionism, knowing I’m bang on target, with an expectation of delivering EXACTLY what my client desires.
An hour and ten minutes later we were STILL at it…. massaging, manipulating, tantalizing, edging. I was a little shocked that so much time had already passed… both of us immersed in the here and now, pure hedonism defined as ‘a devotion to the pursuit of (excessive) pleasure… the enjoyment, expression, or pursuit of physical, especially sexual, pleasure’. Cheers to that 🍻!
Next up was a change in position ready for electro. We didn’t pause… now on his back, legs in stirrups, bum over the edge of the bench, big floor mirror in front of him and we were good to go, for Round TWO. Jim’s cock still had the appearance of a tamed shrew ha! That’s not unusual, even in a thirty something year old. There’s no doubt ‘hypersexualisation’ and an explosion in porn over the last fifteen years has taken its toll… there are young guys out there incapable of achieving an erection due to being sexed out… some of them come out with it during meetings, sharing all kinds of ‘mental stuff’ with me once they feel they can TRUST me. Jim appeared to be in control of his thoughts & emotions though and to be fair, anal stimulation can go two ways…. often the cock will remain flaccid during prostate massage; when it gets more intense it’ll sometimes harden into an explosive orgasm while others cum hard while still soft. You never know. I myself will typically stay soft, then after prolonged progressively vigorous prostate stimulation eventually harden. Everyone’s different. It’s funny… while writing this post I can’t get an image out of my mind… you know when you go to a cinema to watch a blockbuster there’s a secondary film before it… well years ago there was a film I think it was called ‘Cocks’; there was the usual OUTRAGE and consternation you’d expect from prudish Britain not least the religious brigade… the movie basically was a celebration of ‘the penis’ in thousands of different shapes and sizes, nothing more, nothing less! Don’t know what happened to it and as far as I know there’s never been anything like it since🤷.
I’m forever fine tuning electrostimulation sessions. You’ll know how it can feel if you’ve read ‘Letting Go’ and that was my goal with Jim. Some of us in this game make a point of constantly learning; a journey onward and upward… a trajectory to new heights and infinity. Recently I’ve learnt more about e-stimming from others, who’ve discovered the same shortcomings (ha!) in mainstream equipment as I have, and sought to improve matters. It surrounds the insulation aspect; I’d considered improving loops myself with the help of a manufacturer but like with most things online, you discover someone with the same thoughts as you. Stay tuned for more info on this in upcoming blogs, suffice to say, the finer attention to detail makes ‘the hands free electro-orgasm’ less hit and miss for the average user.
Two hours in and Jim was well and truly in the zone. So much so that he was approaching the time where HE HAD TO CUM. He’d told me he thought he’d only be able to climax once, however, by this time, and with the benefit of experience, I thought better. He’d got a good semi on, and it didn’t take me long to get him seriously hard. Impressively so, a grower for sure, over six inches with a big mushroom head canted over slightly like a snake. Remember this dear reader… two hours before, the man had been expressing reservations; fear uncertainty & doubt over the wisdom of interacting with another male, and yet, here he was, begging me to get him off. I’m not going to divulge every detail, other than to say his orgasm was explosive, and copious to say the least. A joy to witness.
That left forty five minutes on the milker. I’d allowed Jim to cum, because by now I was pretty confident in being able to repeat the experience courtesy of the SeriousKit device. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, find more details about SeriousKit penis milking in northeast England HERE.
Three hours after I’d let him in the door, we were still at it, edging away, now with him chained to the bondage bed, blindfolded. The machine had got him hard straightaway… would he deliver the goods? That was partly down to me, and my experience of the machine. I’ve been working it around two years now, and as with all things great, it takes time to really get to know the ins and outs, the nuances. Fine tuning. You see all kinds of porn clips with the SPT (suction tubes) bouncing up and down, yet, some of the most powerful sensations can be had with the tube barely moving… with concentration focused on the pulsation rather than the stroking. Jim had lost track of time, so after three and a quarter hours I checked to see if he was okay to stay a while; some clients obviously have tight time slots they’ve ‘engineered’ and I didn’t want him to panic. Truth is, I wasn’t going to be satisfied until I’d delivered a second even bigger ‘O’ for my esteemed client. He kept repeating ‘I’m so close then it just goes away’.
Him saying that was music to my ears. Why? Because its a cue. Some men give up at that point but they really shouldn’t. Anything really worthwhile in life requires WORK. Easy cum easy go’s fine, and we’ve all had orgasms that haven’t quite hit the mark, but Jim had paid good money for something other than ‘ORDINARY’. True he’d already cum bigtime, but there was more gas in the tank, of that I was certain.
‘That’s a good thing’ I assured him. ‘Stay with it, because every time you get that feeling it builds the orgasm, it’s like steps’.
‘Get your head in the right place, focus, it WILL happen, BIG….. trust me’
And trust me he did. The playroom has one window, and fortunately its double glazed, enough to drown out the sound of the bypass close by. Even so, Jim’s cries were so loud I worried about the aforementioned neighbours….
‘Shhhhhhhhhh!’
To shut him up I stretched an elasticated ball gag across his open mouth with one hand, pulled one of his nipple suckers upward using my teeth, at the same time controlling the 2B connected to an electro plug with the other hand. You may have seen some of my reviews, that describe me as ‘innovative’, there is an example, surely a mark of a good dom I’d say…. He quietened as he fell back down from yet another plateau… I knew we were close. I let go of the gag, and pulled hard on both suckers…. the nipples filled the chambers like miniature tits such was the suction driven by the screw; it was what he’d wanted, there was a scream, yes a SCREAM followed by ‘oh God STOP! RED! RED! RED!’
‘Have you cum?’ Not such a silly question because in the right hands SeriousKit triggers what can only be described as an assault on the senses aka SENSORY OVERLOAD. I’ll leave you to draw your own conclusions.
Who’s next?